Discuss Danny’s opening comments….

“….this topic is so important, for those who are married, next to your relationship with God, your marriage should be the most important relationship that you foster and work on.”

Do you agree? Why is this so?

Do you have a goal for your marriage?

If so share with your group your overall long term goal and your shorter term goals to reach it.

Following are the three points Danny spoke about on Sunday.

1. Christ

 What do you think God’s goal for your marriage is? As you near the end of your life and look back at the years of married life what would you like to see to have happened?

In eternity as you stand before Christ and He looks back over your life and your marriage what would He want to see that would bring Him great pleasure? How important is it to you to know and be doing God’s will in your marriage?

In His story of the two builders what did Jesus say the wise person does? And what did He say the foolish person does? Matthew 7:24-27. What also does the apostle James say? James 1:22-25.

As a single person wanting to get married write down the qualities you want to see in your future spouse.

What are the qualities they would want to see in your life?

In the last few weeks we have touched on the importance of marrying a Christian. 2 Corinthians 6:14-16.

Discuss the importance of marrying a Christian whose life demonstrates Jesus is their Lord as well as their Savior.

Write down the key characteristics demonstrated in those who apply what God’s Word teaches us in the following passages….

  • Psalms 1:1-3.
  • 2 Peter 1:5-11.
  • Galatians 5:22-23.
  • 1Peter 3:3-4.
  • Philippians 4:13, John 15:5.
  • Matthew 23:11.
  • John 12:24-26.
  • Colossians 3:12-17.
  • 1Peter 3:15.
  • Luke 16:10-13. Proverbs 3:3.

As a married person how does your spouse see Jesus demonstrated as your Lord and Savior and how you fulfil God’s role for you as a husband or wife.

2. Commitment

Discuss Danny’s words….

“One of the most unfortunate things that we see in our day is that commitment to nearly anything is unheard of. Talking to the older generation, things that seemed much different.

These are some of the differences they notice

  • People stay married far longer.
  • Most people only had a few jobs in their working life.
  • Your word was your word (your honor).
  • Things were fixed not just thrown away.
  • You made do with what you had.
  • They practiced delayed gratification – if you couldn’t pay cash you didn’t buy it.

When you got married, you made a vow to God and to the other person – for better for worse, for richer for poorer, forsaking all others. But sadly, some people’s word these days appears it doesn’t mean as much as it used to.

3. Communication.

Discuss Danny’s words….

“I want you to ask yourself – how much time do you really spend praying for your spouse, your marriage and your family? How often do you ask God to reveal to you what you need to change in your life, to be a better husband, wife or parent? And lastly – communication between each other is paramount if you are to have a healthy and functioning marriage. Good communication relates to…. It’s time to get on your knees and fight like you should and in the only way that will actually change your circumstances. 

  • Your everyday life.
  • Your dreams and hopes.
  • Your fears and victories.
  • Your sex life and subsequent desires and frustrations.
  • Your needs and desires.

Friends, you will only ever get out of marriage, what you are prepared to put into it. The choice is yours – whether it will be a soul destroying or life fulfilling relationship.”



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